When you are feeling stuck, it is sooooo easy to get caught up in a "problem focused" thinking pattern. The
problem feels so overwhelming that it takes over your whole mental space, leaving precious little room for maneuver.
Some say that in order to solve a problem, you really need to understand it thoroughly (where it came from, what caused it, what it means etc.)
Personally, I don't believe that is necessary, because I have seen so many instances where dwelling on the problem only makes it worse. It is truly surprising how effective it can be to STOP thinking about the problem and START thinking about options and potential solutions.
And, there is where the magic word "instead" comes into play.
What if the next time you are facing a big hairy problem that stretches from horizon to horizon, and feels like it is blocking out all the light, you were to ask yourself the following questions:
What do I want instead of this?
What do I want to be doing instead?
What do I want to be thinking instead?
How do I want to be feeling instead?
What do I want to be saying instead?
Where do I want to be going instead?
And when you get some specific, concrete answers my suggestion it to....... start doing and thinking and feeling those things right now. I'm assuming you may be surprised at the results.
I truly feel that "Thinking is overrated"! Yes, I do know that there is a time and place for it, and what I have noticed is it is one of the classic ways human beings get themselves stuck.
You can think and think and think about....to read more click here
problem feels so overwhelming that it takes over your whole mental space, leaving precious little room for maneuver.
Some say that in order to solve a problem, you really need to understand it thoroughly (where it came from, what caused it, what it means etc.)
Personally, I don't believe that is necessary, because I have seen so many instances where dwelling on the problem only makes it worse. It is truly surprising how effective it can be to STOP thinking about the problem and START thinking about options and potential solutions.
And, there is where the magic word "instead" comes into play.
What if the next time you are facing a big hairy problem that stretches from horizon to horizon, and feels like it is blocking out all the light, you were to ask yourself the following questions:
What do I want instead of this?
What do I want to be doing instead?
What do I want to be thinking instead?
How do I want to be feeling instead?
What do I want to be saying instead?
Where do I want to be going instead?
And when you get some specific, concrete answers my suggestion it to....... start doing and thinking and feeling those things right now. I'm assuming you may be surprised at the results.
I truly feel that "Thinking is overrated"! Yes, I do know that there is a time and place for it, and what I have noticed is it is one of the classic ways human beings get themselves stuck.
You can think and think and think about....to read more click here
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